The single most important thing to realize when you face an abusive relationship is this:

They need you but you don’t need them,
so they make you believe you need them…when really it’s the other way around

they force feed you that illusion/ belief via charm and charisma and beat downs

They need you

but you do not need them!

But they need you
they need your loyalty
your love
your admiration
your wit
your knowledge
they need whatever of yours they can mimic and pretend it was their original idea
they need your blindness and they need you to obey themĀ  (slavery)

And so when you don’t…when you wake up to that fact…

they go for petty revenge..or revenge altogether

but that is what they do and why